Almost everyone likes to do a good job and to win. The desire to excel is as American as apple pie. However, there are some people who feel the need to be perfect. At face value, that may seem like a good thing, but perfectionism comes at a cost. Unrealistic expectations can lead to unhealthy stress levels, and in some cases depression and anxiety. Fortunately, people can overcome perfectionism with hypnosis.
Types of perfectionism
Perfectionism comes in different flavors. There is the need to be perfect and there is also the expectation that others will be perfect as well. The need to be perfect may be driven by high personal standards or by social/societal standards. Having high standards can drive people to excel. However, it becomes unhealthy when high standards trigger self-criticism.
Where does perfectionism occur
The need to be perfect can be evident in different areas of life. Perfectionism may be limited to school or work, or it may be present in friendships and romantic relationships. Some people strive to look perfect physically while others may feel the need to communicate perfectly. Regardless of where or in what context, the need to be perfect can be draining.
The impact of perfectionism
Those who have an unhealthy need to be perfect may procrastinate due to a fear of failure. In some cases, wanting to have the perfect body can lead to eating disorders. Because the pressure never subsides, people can experience serious symptoms like anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Stress can also lead to physical challenges like irritable bowel syndrome.
What causes perfectionism
Very often the need to be perfect is a result of feelings of inadequacy, disapproval, and insecurity. The feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem are almost always a result of an interaction with a caregiver or teacher. Parents can inadvertently create an environment where praise and rewards are tied to accomplishment. Insecurity due to aparent who is not present, can in some cases, trigger perfectionism.
Overcome Perfectionism with Hypnosis
In hypnotic trance the event that triggered the need to be perfect can be uncovered. Once identified, the experience that caused the feelings of insecurity and inadequacy can be let go. This, along with hypnotic programming of the unconscious mind, can help patients overcome perfectionism. Clients often report feeling calm and relaxed, almost as if a weight has been lifted off their shoulders.
Hypnosis is very different than how it is depicted in the movies and in the media. Patients are guided into a highly attentive but relaxed state. Control is never relinquished, and clients remain aware of their surroundings. A skilled hypnotist puts their patient at ease and taps into the subconscious mind which stores the memories that impact the way we respond and act. It is common for clients to feel rested when the session comes to an end even though they were not asleep and remained aware of what transpired.
If you or someone you know is having difficulty because they feel the need to be perfect, hypnotherapy may be able to help. Moving beyond insecurities and critical thoughts can be life changing. People don’t have to suffer with feelings of inadequacy when they can overcome perfectionism with hypnosis.